WHY DO I ALWAYS LOSE?

WHY DO I ALWAYS LOSE?

This blog could just as easily be titled, “I hate this game!”

Why?

Because these are the things kids say when they struggle with what has come to be referred to as being a “good sport.” In other words, they would love any game if they always won.

Not likely to happen.

Most kids struggle with being a good sport at least a time or two at some point in their lives, but are generally able to put their losses into perspective and realize that no one wins them all. Some kids, however, find losing a game (any kind of game) to be a major stumbling block and can become quite unfriendly, and even downright disrespectful, in their response when they realize that they have come up short on the scoreboard.

If you are a parent of that child, this blog is for you.

The key ingredient that is missing for the “poor sport,” is flexible thinking. This is the ability to look at the situation in a flexible way that immediately puts it into a healthy and balanced perspective. This keeps a person’s emotions in the right zone, which helps their response be friendly and respectful. Instead, our “poor sport” is momentarily taken hostage by mad thinking, as illustrated below:

SITUATION: Johnny loses a game of checkers.

MAD THOUGHTS: I hate this game. I always lose. He (whoever just won) cheated!

FEELING: Angry

BEHAVIOR: Sulks, argues, refuses to help clean up, throws game pieces, does not congratulate the winner.

RESULT: Could earn a negative consequence and is not likely to be asked to play checkers again any time soon.

It is easy to see how mad thinking, and the behavior that follows, can impact not only home relationships, but relationships in school and extra-curricular activities as well.

If this sounds all too familiar, the solution is to help your child learn to be flexible in these situations. One simple step that will get you moving in the right direction is to make a short list of “flexible thoughts” for your child to memorize. You can customize the flexible thoughts for situations that involve games, sports, or any type of activity where your child could “lose.” For example, your list could include:

- It’s no big deal.

- I tried my best.

- No one wins all the time.

- Maybe we will win next time.

- You win some, you lose some.

- Even though I lost, it was still fun.

- Maybe I should practice more.

- I should say, “Good game.”

Sit down with your child and, depending on his or her age, choose 3-5 of these “Good Sport Flexible Thoughts” and write them down on a piece of paper. Feel free to change the wording or come up with your own. Once you have your list, say them together several times until your child has them memorized.

Then, when your child is about to begin a game or sporting event, gently remind her to have fun, do her best, and to use her flexible thoughts if she (or her team) loses. Quickly review a couple of her favorite flexible thoughts to make sure they are fresh in her mind.

As your child gradually begins to use her flexible thoughts during games, sports, and other activities, she will find it easier to respond in a gracious and friendly way when she happens to lose. This in turn, will have a positive effect on her friendships and she will feel proud of herself for learning how to handle these situations that used to give her a run for her money.

She will be experiencing something that I tell kids in my office on a regular basis: Flexible thinking makes your fun go up!

Here are the steps again (remember, they can take a little time, so stick with it!):

1) Make a list of flexible thoughts with your child.

2) Help your child memorize them.

3) Remind your child “on-the-spot” to use them.

Then, watch what happens!

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