As I look back on the past few weeks, they are a blur. I carry a fairly busy clinical schedule of children and families that I see each week. I have daily paperwork, phone calls to return, and reports to write. On top of that I am working on what I hope will be a new book, making adjustments to my website, figuring out how to twitter (please don’t laugh), and writing this new weekly blog.

I haven’t even gotten to spending time with Lora and the boys, going to church, fixing a leaky sink, finding time to exercise, mowing the lawn, and helping out with household chores, such as laundry and dishes.

As strange as it may sound, the weekends seem just as busy, if not more, than my weekdays. In fact, by the time the weekend is over, I’m ready for a break!

I suspect that you know what I am talking about. In fact, I am well aware that you might be busier than I am. My point is that for all of us, life’s demands can pile up pretty quickly and it is easy to get out of balance. Hard work is great, but your kids (and mine) need a mom and dad who are balanced and available.

The truth is that we all get out of balance occasionally. Here are a couple ideas that I use to help me get back in balance when I’ve bitten off more than I can chew:

Prioritize. It helps me to stop and think about what is important. Not to be morbid, but sometimes I think about what will be important to me during my last days on earth. I ask myself if I am investing my time and energy into people and projects that will matter to me then and will matter for eternity. As Stephen Covey advised, “Start with the end in mind.” Or better yet, as the psalmist wrote, “Teach us to number our days aright, so that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” (Psalm 90:12)

Pace. For many projects, I find that pacing myself takes a lot of pressure off. True, some things need to be done right away. But many tasks are not urgent in nature and can be broken down into smaller, more manageable chunks that leave time for relaxation and relationships.

Pray. This helps me with prioritizing and restoring perspective. Time in prayer and God’s word often brings a sense of refreshing and reminds me of realities larger than my daily planner. It is inwardly healing to be reminded of what God has graciously done for me and, just as importantly, what he wants to do in and through me.

If you are a parent, then it is a given that you are busy. Staying in balance will help you be the loving and effective parent that you want to be and that your kids need you to be.

How do you know when you are out of balance?

What helps you stay (or get back) in balance?

1 comment (Add your own)

1. Cards Against Humanity wrote:
great game

Mon, January 13, 2014 @ 3:49 AM

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